Feb 07

Self Change and the Brain with Dr. John Arden

By Robert Holmes

Self change is something that should be available to all, rich and poor, young and old all need self change. But the realm of coaching is often only for the rich. John Arden has changed all that by taking his form of coaching psychotherapy, using the brain, to the poorest and most oppressed on the […]

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Dec 31

The Psychology of Money with Robert Holmes

By Robert Holmes

The gap between rich and poor is increasing; greed and selfishness seem pervasive in our culture. Why does money seem to slip through our hands? We want it, we love it, we need it but our relationship seems so abusive! When people get a lot of it, we are disgusted. In this discussion, Robert Gerrish […]

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Oct 16

The Coaching Frame with Jaemin Frazer

By Robert Holmes

Coaching borrows the best stuff from psychology, social work, facilitation, teaching and neuroscience. But the way coaching packages it up (the coaching frame) is both totally unique and much more empowering. Coaches can be empowered by the way they use the coaching frame in a conversation. It permissions them for confrontation, forward momentum and deep […]

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May 14

Overstepping Empathy

By Robert Holmes

Everyone needs to learn to express more empathy. It’s good for business. When clients feel understood they come back, it improves their experience. It builds better relationships and if you’re in the coaching business – it is absolutely central to your survival. The ability to establish rapport with a client very often rests on your […]

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Apr 23

Employing Eeyore as Your Advisor

By Robert Holmes

I loved reading about the adventures of Christopher Robin and his childhood friends in Hundred Acre Wood. It was only recently I realized that the author of Winnie the Pooh, A. A. Milne, gave these childhood characters a range of mental illnesses. Think about it. Pooh Bear has ADHD, Tigger has hyperactivity-impulsivity disorder, Piglet has […]

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Apr 09

The Importance of Play

By Robert Holmes

People talk about finding the child within, as though some part of us got trapped in time, stuck in an inner capsule inside us. The truth of it is though, our unconscious does not know about time and space. For the unconscious self, all time is now. Anything from our past is in some respects […]

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Feb 23

5 Essential Actions to Take for Your Brain

By Robert Holmes

There’s a lot of stuff about your brain in the popular literature right now. Picking your way through the advice can be difficult and at times highly contradictory. Let me try to get brain management down to 5 essential actions for you, drawing from the work of Dr. John Arden who wrote an excellent book […]

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Feb 08

Dealing with Your Partner’s Family!

By Guest Contributor

You could be a young independent couple with your whole lives ahead of you, or you could be a seasoned married couple with marital life battle scars that have given you that hardened hue. Whichever relationship circumstance you find yourself in, one thing’s for certain–at some point or another, you will have to deal with […]

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Jan 12

Brain Hacking

By Robert Holmes

Why do coaches excel at brain hacking? In this article, written for Choice Magazine, Robert unveils the most recent research from the University of Queensland department of Neuropsychotherapy on “talking therapies” and how they work on neuroplasticity. Check out the published article in .pdf format here

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Nov 27

Choppy CV? Get a Portfolio Career!

By Robert Holmes

An HR consultant once told me, “Make sure you stay at a job at least 2 years, otherwise it looks like you have no stickability”. Sage advice apart from the downsizing of the mid 1980’s depression, post GFC I or the “right sizing” in Canberra right now. At such times corporate compassion hits at an […]

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Nov 25

Coaching High Performance through State Change

By Robert Holmes

Are you pushing for higher performance from yourself and your team? Ever tried the process of state change? Robert’s article “Coaching High Performance through State Change” (click to see the .pdf format) appears in this month’s Coaching World. In it he shares the journey of a client who uses state change in physical, mental and […]

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Nov 21

It’s a Shame Not to Deal with Shame

By Sue Hefren

Andrew tossed and turned, he couldn’t sleep. He felt like he had given it his best shot but lost the contract. It plagued him and kept playing on his mind. What had he done wrong? Was he really too bold, even arrogant? How could he have handled it differently? To make things worse, the lead […]

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Nov 18

9 Things to do When Selecting a Life Coach

By Robert Holmes

Choosing a coach can be fraught with danger. The industry is full of wild animals: dodgy suppliers and non-accredited coaches roam the wilderness. This is a big investment of time, energy and finances so getting it right is really important. What can you do to carefully select the right provider? Here are our top nine […]

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Oct 30

Are You a “Soft Bipolar” Leader?

By Robert Holmes

Just exactly what makes an leader tick? Why are entrepreneurs more likely to take risk and therefore more likely to gain (or lose) it all? It is an underlying disposition, a mental frame of reference or a personality trait? Dr. Michael A. Freeman, a psychiatrist and venture capitalist says that many entrepreneurs and business leaders […]

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Oct 08

Being a Brandividual

By Robert Holmes

Pitching yourself to others involves framing, being present and listening to others and then using story to make a great impression. The final piece is deciding what impression you wish to leave them with. That impression, also called a niche or expertise, is imperative to your future relationship with them. I have written elsewhere about […]

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Oct 03

Pitch Yourself – Listen First!

By Robert Holmes

Letting people tell you what they want We are often so passionate about our product, service or solution that we never realise the person we are with did not get up this morning looking for any of it. They got up with a problem. If you come straight out of the gates pitching yourself or […]

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Sep 30

Pitch Yourself Using Story

By Robert Holmes

Face it, we’re all in sales. We try to persuade others that our way, our choice, our task is the important or right or best one every time we select an image for Instagram, choose whose post to retweet, whose article to thumbs up or whose profile to like. We are all influencers. But attention […]

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Sep 22

Pitch Yourself – Own the Frame

By Robert Holmes

People are pitching all the time. We communicate persuasively with others in order to have them behave in a way we would like. It might be a sales pitch, or trying to convince someone at the bar to go on a date. Whatever the circumstance, good pitching is an art form. If you don’t have […]

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Sep 19

When Anxiety Can Be Good

By Sue Hefren

I woke up one morning and my stomach felt like it had been tied in knots. You know the feeling – the uncomfortable mass that sits there and just won’t go away. Anxiety manifests itself in other ways too… uneasiness, heart palpitations, sweaty outbreaks, sleeplessness, dizziness or nausea. Depending on the day that worrisome feeling […]

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Sep 19

Bad Body Language for First Impressions

By Robert Holmes

I have appeared on television several times, and each time I am struck by how measured and self controlled my hosts have been. Off camera of course they are larrikins like me, but on set they command the stage. They are artful and well practiced in managing their state and body language in order to […]

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